Friday, July 27, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Always a Valley

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Howdy, all! We're going to use a little creative visualization this week. 😁🚴🌄

So there you were, cruising on your bike, feeling the breeze against your face and coursing through your hair. You're enjoying a ride in a beautiful valley, taking in the scenery as you casually pedal through the countryside. 

And then:

Always a valley before a hill.

...there was that hill in front of you. 

So what do you do? 

You shift gears, pedal harder, and you get up that hill, right? You know there'll be another valley on the other side of that hill. 

See the valleys as a gift: they give us an opportunity to rest, regroup, enjoy our surroundings, and be ready for the hills ahead of us. Life will always have its ups and downs, but what we make of them is up to us. We can appreciate the easy ride in the valleys and push through to conquer the hills when they happen. Being able to shift gears is a useful skill, too; it allows us to aim our resources where we need to when presented with challenges, giving us a more effective path to success.

What does this week's fortune mean to you? It can be read a few different ways, but the above is what shouted the loudest to me. I'd love to hear what shouted out to you, so please drop me a comment below!

Have a great weekend! 💛🐝

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I've linked to a book that may help, below.

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

The Magic of Kindness

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It's Wednesday, so let's have a mid-week pick-me-up with a heartwarming story.

There is a guy named Dan Peterson. His wife had passed away, and he was terribly lonely. He'd really hit a low point in life.

He was going through the motions one day, trying to do some grocery shopping, when a little girl being pushed in a shopping cart by her mother waved at him and said, "Hi old person! It's my birfday today!"

He admits to being taken aback, and her mother was mortified at her child's brazen and inelegant way of addressing the older gentleman, but then, the little girl asked Mr. Peterson for a hug.

So he gave her one!

And thus was a born a lasting friendship between elder and toddler. Several generations lie between them, but they are inseparable.

Norah, the little girl, has given Dan Peterson a new lease on life. She said, "I thought he needed a friend because he was sad."

Now, Mr. Peterson is no longer miserable or stuck in his grief due to his new friend. Norah has healed him in the way that only a true human connection can.

Mr. Peterson recently got to watch Norah graduate from preschool. It's as if he's her own grandfather, now, and they get to learn from each other every day.

✨You have magic in you. Did you know that?

Photo by Robert Baker on Unsplash
A small act of kindness is like magic, and no matter how small that act, it can seem like a big deal to someone who is hurting. We're often taught as kids, "Don't talk to strangers," but sometimes, a stranger needs you. Much like Norah reached out to Mr. Peterson, you can reach out to someone, too. Even if it's just to smile at them, or give a passing "hello," you could really turn their whole day—or life—around in the blink of an eye.

I'm so happy for Norah and Dan Peterson and their lasting friendship, not constrained by the decades' difference in their ages!

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Sources: Today / NPR

Friday, July 20, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Nevermind Tomorrow

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Hello everyone, and happy Friday to you all! I hope this week has been good for you!

Here is today's fortune:

🌻 Nevermind tomorrow, TODAY is the day. ðŸŒ»
Many people over the years have written about living in the present moment: Thich Nhat Hanh, Wayne Dyer, and Eckhart Tolle, to name a few. It's something that I struggled with in my younger days, because I was frequently so miserable that I didn't want to focus on today. I wanted to focus on tomorrows, because any tomorrow had the potential to be better than a miserable today, back then. 

And looking forward to tomorrow is not a bad way to get through some rough stuff, by any means. I employ that method, myself, at times, because it reminds me that bad times won't always be around.

But if it is within us to do so, living for TODAY has its merits, and is a good baseline to strive for. After all, we are not guaranteed any tomorrows, are we? We are alive RIGHT NOW. 

I'm currently reading some Russian literature (Bulgakov's The Master and Margarita), so when I came across this quote by a Russian writer, Leo Tolstoy, I felt I should share it with you:
Remember then: there is only one time that is important-- Now! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power.

I suppose if I had known any better back in the day, I would have realized that I had the power to change my perception of all of those miserable todays and live more fully—but I didn't know that then. How do you do that? Well, for one thing, you can focus on something that's good TODAY. Any one thing, big or small, when viewed with gratitude, can turn today around.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Drop me a line in the comments and let me know something good about today, okay? I'll post mine, too. :)

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May you enjoy all your days, but especially TODAY. 🐝

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Want more? There's a video of me giving more context!

Sunday, July 15, 2018

Gathering 2018: That's a Wrap!

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I have been home from Tennessee for a couple of weeks, and have been reflecting on my experiences leading up to the event and while there. I also wanted to spend time reviewing photos for the best ones to share with you. As I tend to do, this will be part travelogue, part event summary!
Beautiful native flora at a Banner Elk restaurant.

My parents and I met up in Tennessee earlier in the week so we could get a family vacation in prior to the event. And first, I need to start with a neat story of synchronicity:

My parents and I live about a 10-hour drive from each other. I was coming from Pittsburgh (7 hours from Roan Mountain), and they were coming from coastal North Carolina (6 hours from Roan Mountain). We were going to meet up at the State Park, and the plan was I'd get the keys to the cabin and they'd meet me there. They knew I was aiming to arrive by ~3pm, but you never know with traffic how long it'll take.
Rolling down a TN road.

As I was driving down Rt. 19 and turned right onto State Hwy 143 (the road the park office is on), I voice-texted my parents my location while I still had a little bit of signal. They replied: "Right behind you!" I looked in my rear-view mirror, and there they were!

You see: to get to the cabins, eventually, all of us would end up on Rt. 19 and have to turn onto the State Park's road. I turned right, and they turned left, since we came from opposite directions, and yet somehow, by the grace of God, we ended up literally arriving together!

You can't ask to start a week together better than that! I love synchronicities like that!

Anyway, onto the rest of this post:

If you've never been to the Roan Mountain State Park, I highly recommend it! The cabins are nicer than some hotel rooms I've been in, and the staff are all very nice. They come fully stocked with everything you'd need, save for food, beverages, and your personal toiletries (though, like hotel rooms, they do provide bars of soap, but no shampoo, conditioner or moisturizer). There is a grocery store in the town of Roan Mountain, and then a larger shopping area (Walmart, etc.) in nearby Elizabethton, so you can get anything you may need for your stay.

Hauntingly beautiful picnic area in the middle of a forest of giant rhododendrons - Roan Mountain.

The mountains of Eastern Tennessee provide a gorgeous, peaceful setting. While the summer days are hot and humid, and there is no AC in the cabins, at night it cools down enough that if you open the windows and turn on the ceiling fan, you can get comfortable fairly quickly.  I was situated in a bed in the loft, giving my parents the first-floor queen bed, so it was a little warmer up there. This was quickly remedied by the small desktop fan I'd brought with me. The cabins have full electric in every room, and also heaters should you choose to stay in the cooler times of year. They are rentable year-round and have large wood stoves to use for heating in the main great room of each cabin, and the bedrooms and bathroom have small wall heaters for individualized comfort.

The cabins have free wifi that mostly works (as they say); it'll go down during storms, but only for a little while, then come back up. I found it more reliable this year than last year. They also installed a Verizon cell tower repeater up by the park office, so if you needed to make a call that wasn't local (there are phones in the cabin for local calls), you could do so by driving to the park office (which is only a 1/4 mile from the cabins).
Huge rock outcropping at Grandfather Mountain

There is plenty of nature to be seen in the area: deer, birds, various chipmunks and squirrels, butterflies/moths, fish, and evidence (but no sightings) of bears! There were even baby birds in a nest on our cabin's porch! While there, we enjoyed a lot of small hikes on Grandfather Mountain and Roan Mountain, explored nearby towns (Blowing Rock and Banner Elk, to name two), and visited the Rhododendron Gardens and the Miller Farmstead up on Roan Mountain. We also explored nearby Elizabethton, TN, which is a town kind of reminiscent of the 1950s-1960s, including piped-in music of that era and vintage car shows on weekends. Elizabethton also has Carter Mansion, the oldest standing frame house in Tennessee.

The largest amethyst I have ever seen!
This is in the museum at Grandfather Mountain.
After several days of family vacation, the Gathering got under way on Friday, June 29th. We went to our host's house and got my canopy set up. I was offering inspirational jewelry and dreamcatchers that I'd made. You can see a Facebook live video that I did if you want to see some of the setup and surroundings. I unfortunately did not get another opportunity to go live during the rest of the weekend, but I did take plenty of photos to share with you!
The Miller Farmstead, Roan Mountain

In short, the Gathering was a success! It was about the same size as last year's, which is nice because there was time over the course of the weekend to meet each attendee and get to know them a little bit.

On Friday night, we had a cookout and meet and greet. These were included in the ticket price, and the food was great! Thank you, Cat Young, for your hospitality!

 After we ate, Cat Young and Chris Wingerd told some legends of local Bigfoot sightings in the area, and then Chris led a hike up on the mountain to go find him. ðŸ‘£ No luck there, but I understand the hike was a bit spooky at times. :)

cozy outdoor fireplace
Those of us who didn't do the night hike sat by the outdoor fireplace and chilled. We had a hard time getting the fire going at first, but Dad was able to get a draft going and then it was blazing! :) There was some music, followed by talking and getting to know one another. And there were plenty of fireflies around, too! After some time around the campfire, we all turned in to our respective lodgings and would reconvene the next day.

Tess Hughes led a meditation class.
On Saturday morning, the day began in a beautiful clearing next to the creek that courses down the mountain. Tess Hughes of the Mountain Gypsies kicked the day off with a meditation class.

While you would think the natural setting and gently babbling brook would lend to a peaceful meditation, actually, the point of the class was to teach us how to meditate despite distractions! I loved this take on teaching meditation, and through her exercises (she distracted us with phone calls, conversations, etc.), I feel like I learned a lot.

Our hostess, Cat Young.
After the meditation class, we did a creek walk. Some folks went all the way in and let the creek carry them down, especially the three people who were baptized by Cat Young while there. (I don't know if this was planned, but it was wonderful to witness these baptisms in such a beautiful, natural setting.)

Nothing like a creek walk selfie!
Dad and I collected a lot of cool rocks from the creek, including a bunch of quartz. I like to scatter these around my home and office, and I feel closer to the mountains just by having them with me. They're a great reminder of my trip and time with friends and family!

After the creek walk, there was a yoga class presented by Debbie Hart. I did not stay for this, as I hadn't gotten a lot of sleep the night before due to all the excitement, and wanted to rest and shower before heading back to Cat's house for the speaking part of the event.

Cool rocks from the creek.
Back at the Gathering, Cat had a great hot dog stand going with brats, hot dogs, sautéed peppers and onions, potato and macaroni salads, beans, chips, cookies, etc., all for a nominal fee. After lunch, the speakers began.

Carolyn LeCrone's tent and the start of a charity blanket.
First up was Carolyn LeCrone, who read to us something she had written during a meditation on the theme of the event, which was "As I Speak Into These Hills." It was beautifully done—a poem to the mountain, to speaking and remembrances, and I was very touched by it. She had a way of bringing those wild, gorgeous hills alive with her recitation.

Next up was me. I spoke about how communication is important to human beings, and yet we are capable of making a thorough mess of it sometimes. In my own life, I've discovered that by employing certain listening, intuitive, and mindset skills, I have finally found my own voice, and this has both improved relationships and allowed me to branch out creatively.

My tent and items I've made.
Additionally, I believe each of us has a unique voice that we can use to heal ourselves and others, and I explained why. I then ran the group through an exercise to raise positivity and allow each person to take home some simple skills to start finding their own voices. I got great feedback on the talk, so I'm glad it made an impact!

My tent and Dana Wingerd speaking.
Dana Wingerd discussed her journey back to faith despite some of her disappointment with organized religion throughout her life, and encouraged people that they can have a relationship with God if they want. What I took away from her talk was that each person's  journey is their own, but it is possible to break any chains restricting us from following a spiritual path and forging a new one if that's what we want.

Debbie Hart told us her incredible story of having a sleeping stroke—typically fatal—and being so convinced that she was going to be fine that she was just...fine. You really have to hear it from her, but it's a story of faith, determination, and not confining herself to others' expectations of her medical condition and how it's "supposed" to be for stroke patients. If you ever get to hear her speak about this, please take that opportunity and hear her speak. It'll give you chills!
Many hands made short work of a charity blanket.

During breaks from the speakers, our host, Cat Young, announced that she'd hoped we'd all make a blanket together to be raffled off to benefit a women's shelter. That bidding is just about done, and it looks like she has raised about $150 for a local women's shelter!

Hiking trail on Grandfather Mountain
Prior to the event, Cat asked if I would facilitate a workshop in making giant arm-knit blankets, so I brought the supplies with me and spent time training people how to do a row or two of arm-knitting. We not only have the blanket we all made together, but I also made a sample beforehand to show everyone what we'd be doing. Stay tuned, because I will be auctioning that one off to benefit a Pittsburgh women's shelter as soon as the big blanket's bidding is done. Watch this space for that!

I guess this is the Elk of Banner Elk?
I do like that nearly every single attendee of the Gathering participated in this endeavor. Many hands made small work of that project, and working together, we were able to connect our energies towards something bigger than ourselves. Best of all, many people told me how fun it was! It truly energized the event!

After all the speakers were done, we headed to Sorrento's Italian Bistro for the party! The food was great: salad, pizza, and chicken parmigiana with penne marinara, which was all included in the ticket price for the event. After dinner, we took a walk through Banner Elk to the Red Door Candy Store before some people stayed for 
a spirit investigation at an undisclosed location. I am not a paranormal investigator like many of the attendees, so my parents and I headed back to Roan Mountain and chilled in our cabin, instead. Have I mentioned how grateful I am for this time spent with my family?

Carter Mansion, Elizabethton, TN
On Sunday, we met at Cat Young's house for her talk, "As I Speak Into These Hills," where she discussed the power of our words when spoken aloud, especially when it comes to prayer. While doing so, she demonstrated some of the healing techniques that she and her daughter Tess employ.
Top of Grandfather Mountain

And then...that was it! We finished the blanket, packed our stuff, ate some leftovers for lunch, hugged and kissed and said "see you next year" and just like that, it was over! It seemed to go by too fast.

Soldiers' memorial, Elizabethton, TN

My parents and I spent the remainder of Sunday exploring Roan Mountain on both the TN and NC sides, ending up for dinner in Banner Elk at a nice steakhouse, Stonewalls.

After over a week in TN, my parents and I packed up each of our cars and said goodbye to each other for our respective long trips back to our homes. By that point, I'd missed my husband a lot and couldn't wait to get home, but it was bittersweet saying goodbye to my folks, too.

Stonewalls - a steakhouse in Banner Elk, NC
We had a really great time together, and I love our sense of adventure. We're the kind of people who just love exploring and no matter where we are, we can have a good time.

The trip was restorative and eye-opening, for me. I learned a lot about myself and where I came from on that trip, and had much to reflect on about that. Travel is good for the soul; it breaks us out of our daily routines and allows us the latitude to not only try different things, but the change of scenery can prompt a shift within ourselves, as well. I've been experiencing that shift within myself, and know there are more good things coming from it. :)

I hope you enjoyed this summary of my trip to Tennessee and the Gathering. Lots of good things are coming from it, not only for me, but for others, too. I'm really proud of everyone who attended and worked together to benefit survivors of domestic abuse, for instance. And I know there were a lot of eyes opened to how we can improve our lives and ourselves if given half the chance.

Drop me a line and let me know if you have any questions or comments about the Gathering or any part of this post! I hope you are having an amazing summer, too—let me know if you're taking any cool vacation trips! 💛🐝

Goodbye, TN. Til next time!

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Friday, July 13, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Laugh at Yourself

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Hello everyone! This week's fortune cookie made me laugh when I opened it:

The person who learns to laugh at himself
will never cease to be amused.
Are we taking ourselves too seriously these days? When was the last time you laughed at yourself? Not in the kind of way that you're putting yourself down, but just really finding humor about something you did or said? Maybe it was a little silly, or a simple error? Or a funny story from when you were a kid? 

This reminds me not to be too serious all the time. While I like to have a lot of fun, I sometimes forget to laugh at myself. I do goofy things on occassion, and I know they make others laugh, so I need to remember to get a giggle out of it, too.

When was the last time you laughed at yourself? And what happened to make you do that? Drop me a line and let me know! I'll share mine, too: look for it in the comments, below! :)

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Friday, July 6, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Express Yourself

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Given that I've just presented a talk about using our voices, I love that this is the fortune cookie I opened this week! Let's take a look:

Express yourself: Don't hold back!

I have a question for you: ARE you expressing yourself fully? Or are you holding back?

I will be doing a summary post about the Gathering in TN where I just spoke, but let me give you a tiny preview of what I said: that we tend to fail at communicating or expressing ourselves, but it doesn't have to be that way. Each of us has a voice, and we can use our voices to heal ourselves and others, and when we start using our true voices regularly, it makes it easier to express ourselves creatively, too. 

Give yourself permission to communicate who you are to the world. Practice it regularly and free yourself! Even if it's something you've never done before but have always wanted to try, go on: try it!

So whether it's speaking, writing, music, painting, drawing, woodworking, or some other form of self-expression:

You do you!

I hope you all have a wonderful—and expressive—weekend! 💛🐝

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Reflections on 2020

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