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How Your Expectations Affect Your Stress Levels

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Hello everyone! I hope you’ve had a good week. A week that was not stressful in any way; that was happy and fulfilling and a total breeze!

What’s that, you say?

It wasn’t a total breeze? You’re stressed out to the hilt and headed to happy hour as soon as 5:00 p.m. hits so you can try to unwind and forget about work for a while?

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Believe me, I can relate.

I have a history of being easily prone to stress, after all. And though my stress habit has vastly changed with all the self-development work I’ve been doing over the last several years, it will still sometimes rear its ugly head.

I often complain to my husband when these times arise, and he always says the same thing to me:

So what does he mean by "stress is just expectations"? 

It’s very simple, really: your expectations (or someone else’s) can create stress in your life if you don’t manage them well. If you’re stressed out, adjust your expectations accordingly.

My husband—who by the way has no interest in some of the stuff I am interested in, like meditation, manifestation, and living purposefully—has mastered the basic concepts of manifestation perfectly.

The basic gist is that the things you think of are the things you draw toward yourself.

He told me the other day: if you’re expecting to be stressed out, you will be.

Bang-zoom! He’s right!

I really married a winner. I’m grateful I have him to turn to when I’m stressed, because he gives me perspective that lets me get out of my own head.

Consider what expectations you are placing on yourself, your work day, your friends, or your family, and then see if you can tie that in to any feelings of stress you may be feeling or a stressful environment around you.

Once you make the connection, adjust your expectations. 

For example, I have been known to push myself too hard, work-wise, especially since I am self-employed. I have been learning how to adjust my expectations by telling myself: "You know what, Beth? It’s okay if you take a half day off today to do something for yourself."

I also don't always expect to be stressed any more. I've been able to take on larger workloads and do them in less time without feeling anxious or stressed out the way I used to. It's a whole new world over here, and I'm loving it!

How hard are you pushing yourself or someone in your life? Is it creating stress? 

If you feel like someone else’s expectations of you are adding to your stress, then you may want to address those, too.

I hope this has given you some food for thought, and helps ease any stress you feel in your life as you begin to work on it!

Until next week, I hope you have a great and stress-free week ahead! 🐝

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