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Friday, April 5, 2019

Fortune Cookie Friday: 5 Tips For When Opportunity Knocks

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Hello, fellow fortune seekers!  

I think you’re going to like this week’s fortune:






So tell me: are you ready to open the door and invite Opportunity in? Or, like me, have you ever been caught unaware when an amazing opportunity comes knocking and not known what to do? If Opportunity knocks, how prepared are you to say “YES!” to it?

I admit, I’ve missed out on some spectacular things because I wasn’t organized or confident enough to say “yes” to them or welcome them into my life. I may have even felt intimidated, overwhelmed, or unworthy, at times.

The thing is, though, when Opportunity comes knocking, we need to make sure we’re ready to open the door and welcome it in.

Think of it this way: let’s say you’re a company that is just dying to get a celebrity's sponsorship to boost sales of your new, spectacular widget. What would you do if that celeb just dropped in at your facility to see your operation? If you had to scramble around getting things ready for them, then you’ve already failed to be ready for the opportunity. If, however, you’re ready for their visit at any time, then you have a smoothly running operation and can be open for that sponsorship deal any time the opportunity may arise.

Now, I hate it when people just drop by my house unannounced, precisely because I am no June Cleaver, but when it comes to my internal state of being, I'm ready for the unannounced drop-ins. I’ve been doing a bit of “spring cleaning,” as it were—spiritual and mental housecleaning, basically. I am making sure this “house” is tidied up and ready for Opportunity to show up at any time. (Side note: did you know “Beth” means “house”? Yep, I’m gonna run with this metaphor!)

So what do I mean by this? Simply put: I am keeping myself open to opportunities by mentally and emotionally preparing myself for them. Let's get our mindset in gear for saying a big, fat "YES" to Opportunity, shall we?

Beth's Top 5 Tips for Being Opportunity-Ready

1. Act as if it’s already yours.

I’ve been working in advance for the types of opportunities I want to have available to me, such as drafting certain pieces of writing and creative endeavors so that if I see a call for submissions, I can be ready. It may mean creating a variety of contract templates for the types of projects or clients that I want to be able to take on in the future, so that I can have an easy time of onboarding instead of having to scramble. Last week, I learned it means making sure I have some yellow yarn on hand because I make bee-themed things on my Etsy shop to complement this blog, and wouldn't you know, someone suddenly placed a special order for bee-themed items to be made in a bright yellow. Lesson learned; yarn stocked. These are just a few examples of the business development endeavors taking my focus, lately.

2. Find some Zen.

A few weeks ago, I started meditating first thing every morning (before breakfast), and again in the middle of the day. By starting my day with an energy-boosting meditation while I sip on some warm lemon water, I’ve been feeling so refreshed and capable of doing anything! It puts me in the right frame of mind to tackle my day and get myself ready for opportunities. 

Additionally, by meditating in the middle of the day, I am making sure to take a break, stop working, clear my head, reset, and refresh. 

I know sometimes people say, “Oh, I don’t have time in the day to meditate.” But did you know you could meditate for 1 minute, 5 minutes, 10 minutes … any amount of time that you have? And there are so many easy ways to do it, from something as simple to listening to yourself breathe to using books/audiobooks/Audible or or using phone apps that make it easy for you to do. There really are no excuses for not getting still for even a few moments every day. 

It also means making a better effort to eat right and sleep more, so that I’m physically, mentally, and emotionally in great shape to be able to act on opportunities when they come. When you’re overtired, overstressed, or feeling blah, how can you be ready? That’s something I’ve been asking myself, and realizing that I need to make changes to match how I want to feel.

It seems that by engaging in some self-care, I’m getting some space back in my day, resulting in a much better frame of mind to respond to things when they show up.

3. Don’t Become Attached to The Outcome

I used to really focus on what the outcome would be: "if this, then that," but I don’t become as as attached to outcomes, any more. I just put my best foot forward, then let the chips fall where they may. I can only control my own actions and mindset, but not the actions and mindset of others, so why stress myself out? In addition, when you become attached to an outcome, you may miss out on other, better opportunities (see #4), so what I now try to do is take the steps I need to take, then bless and release, as a friend of mine would say! 

4. Don’t Have Blinders On

If you’re focusing too much on a specific outcome, you may completely miss another opportunity staring you in the face.

I have a great example of this, actually, from my own life: 

Many, many moons ago, I really, really, really, REALLY wanted to work at a particular place, in a particular role. I thought I was a great fit for it and put all my energy into getting that position. It was my “dream job” yadda yadda, and I put in 200% towards getting it. 

Thing is, I completely missed other opportunities that were coming my way because I was so hyper-focused. Friends had even warned me that I was being too closed-minded to the rest of the world's offerings, but I didn’t listen. But they were right. When I realized it, it felt like I was taking blinders off, and I somewhat regretted being so single-minded.

The below video is a really interesting—have you ever seen it? It clearly demonstrates how if you focus too much one on thing, you miss other details. Take a moment to watch it; it's short, and it's fascinating:


This phenomenon is called “inattentional blindness,” and it’s something we all do at some point.

So, what are you missing out on because you’re too focused on something else?

 5. Don’t Prejudge—Get The Whole Picture

I used to set a lot of theoretical rules up in my own head about what opportunities mean. I'd hear about something and make a snap judgment without truly examining it realistically, usually to my detriment because I would shut the door in Opportunity's face instead of considering it. 

Now, though, I just try to be open, period. I don’t get ahead of myself and predetermine how things will be, and it doesn't mean that I will take every single opportunity presented just because it's there. You can still be discerning, but actually discern. Don't just close the door because of some made-up rule like "Oh, that type of career sounds like something I'd enjoy, but that type of work always so _________." Insert whatever adjective you like. Doesn't really matter what it is...it's probably not the whole picture. Don't make assumptions without getting all the information and assessing things realistically. I'd rather take each opportunity and examine it at face value for what it is and also for what it is not, and once I have all the data, let my intuition guide me in the way to go. 

Additionally, I try not to prejudge my own worthiness of those opportunities. I’ve had a lot of stuff come my way these past few weeks that a year ago I would have wondered, “Can I?” or “Am I good enough?” but the fact is: I am very good at what I do, and I work hard. Having a high degree of self-awareness helps in this endeavor. If I examine the opportunity and also realistically examine myself, I’ll know which endeavors are right for me and which are not. Or whether the timing is now or later. Either way: I am deserving and worthy of opportunities that come. 

…and so are you!

Conclusion

So how about it? You ready? 

Shoot me a comment and let’s talk about what you’re doing to get yourself ready to open that door when Opportunity comes a’knockin’!

Photo by Catarina Carvalho on Unsplash
 I hope you'll consider opening the door! 

Until next week, take care! 💛🐝


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Friday, February 15, 2019

Book Review: Soul Wounds & Sacred Revelations

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Hello everyone!

I thought I would do something a little bit different, today: I’m going to share my thoughts about a book I just finished reading, kind of like a personalized book review. I was positively affected by this inspirational book, and I think you’d get a lot out of it, too.
Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash
The book is called Soul Wounds and Sacred Revelations by Deneen Joyner. If it sounds familiar to you, that’s because I briefly mentioned it in my post accepting the nomination for the Liebster Award.

Deneen Joyner is based here in Pittsburgh, and I had the pleasure of meeting her at a holiday craft market back in December at the Green Heiress Yoga Studio. When I met her, I was immediately struck by her warm and friendly nature. We talked for a few moments, and I found out that her book, Soul Wounds and Sacred Revelations, would be the featured Soul Cafe Book Club book for February.

Anyway, I bought Ms. Joyner’s book in the Kindle edition and hunkered down for some reading in preparation for the meeting on February 6th. I thought I knew what I was getting into based on the description, but to be honest, I had no idea! What I thought would be a light, inspirational read turned into some soul-searching of my own.

In her book, Ms. Joyner takes you through a journey that starts with staring at herself in the bathroom mirror as she contemplates ending her life. In her darkest hour in that bathroom, she had a choice to make: surrender herself to God in order to fully heal, or end it right there and then.

She tells her story so vulnerably, transparently, and beautifully. Her voice is warm, accessible, and friendly. You feel like you’re getting to know her as you read. There may be points in this book where you find yourself crying along with her, but you will also smile with her or pump your fist in the air and yell “YES!” when she makes a breakthrough. (I legit did this!)

You may even feel chills as something she says resonates.

But most of all, you may see yourself in her story.

At about halfway through, I realized that this book was giving me an actual road map to root out and deal with some deep-seated emotional pain that I’ve been carrying. Because we all do carry pain from our experiences with us, right? Some of us more than others. If you ask yourself, “What emotional pain am I carrying?” I bet you’ll find something in there.

Does it feel comfortable carrying that pain? 

I’ll be the first to raise my hand and say: sure, yeah, in some way, it does, because it’s been a part of me for so long. But I realize that I don’t have to live like that any more. While I've done a lot of healing in my life, there is always room for more. :)

As she writes, Ms. Joyner details the approach she took to finally confront the pain she’d been carrying and then progress her life forward without it. It’s a story of hope, renewal, forgiveness, love (for others and self), and being real with yourself. It’s about connecting your past to your present and becoming whole. It’s about stepping into your full realization in life instead of blindly “living” it.

After reading this book and sitting back and taking a deep breath, I’ve started some more soul work. I feel like some kind of soul archaeologist right now, digging into myself to get to the bottom of things. It’s like I’m meeting me all over again: Beth as a kid. Beth as a teen. Beth in her 20s. Beth in her 30s. And onward...

This is kind of deep, ya’ll!

If you want to read someone’s amazing, inspirational and uplifting story, then this is definitely the right book for you! Who knows, you may even find yourself on your own journey to your whole, healed self.

At the time of this writing, it’s free on Kindle Unlimited or very modestly priced if you buy it outright in either the Kindle edition, hard cover, or paperback. If you live in the Pittsburgh area and meet Deneen Joyner at some point, I bet she’ll even sign it for you.

I give it a 5 out of 5 stars. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

If you read it, let me know what you think!

Until next time: Be Well. 💛🐝






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Friday, December 28, 2018

Taking Stock

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How was your 2018? 

Even if it wasn't that hot, what good can you take away from it? 

As we get ready to close out one year and welcome the next, it's common to take stock of where we are now and where we are going. 

For me, it's been an incredible year: one full of hardships and success; sadness and joy; change and stillness; fear and peacefulness. 

Because that's how life is, right? It's a series of events, emotions, and states of being that are either good, bad, or neutral, and we often perceive things as "happening to" us. People also tend to take one or two bad things happening as a sign of how things will go. How many times have I seen on social media that "This year is fired!" before it's really even gotten under way? 


I challenge you not to do that to yourself this year.


The only thing that is guaranteed in 2019 is that both good and bad will happen, because that's life—but what you make of it is up to you. 2019 will also hold possibility, potential, opportunity, growth, and hope. Which way are you going to see things?

My hope for you as we enter 2019 is that you will consider what I wrote a couple of weeks ago and thank 2018, in some way, for contributing to who you are today. I also hope that you will greet 2019 with open eyes and open hearts to the possibilities that abound.

Photo by Oskars Sylwan on Unsplash

May your 2019 be filled with peace, hope, love, joy, and gratitude! 💛🐝








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Friday, June 15, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Change of Scenery

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Hello everyone! Today's fortune was sent in by a reader:




Life is like a dogsled team. If you ain't the lead dog, the scenery never changes.

I'm going to start by saying this: If you're content with life and are happy with your role, job, what-have-you, then read no further. Congratulations on being fulfilled with what you have! Contentment is something I hope all of my readers will have, and if you are happy, then I am happy for you! This fortune may not be as interesting to you. :)

It's worded so aggressively, too, which—I'll admit—makes me cringe a little. Sayings like this may give the impression that the only valid place to be is in the front of the pack, and I don't think that's the case at all. I have a lot of thoughts about leadership and roles and contentment and influencing from within instead of from in the front, but I think that's also another post all by itself.

That said, if you're NOT content with your lot in life, this one's possibly for you! It does what it says on the tin: if you don't like the scenery you're in, change it.

Don't like your job? Look for another one.

Don't like your career? Learn a new one and then switch.

Don't feel like you're the best at whatever your role is and want to stand out? Get yourself some training in that role and become the best at what you do.

We tend to make a lot of excuses, too, as to why taking those steps to "change the scenery" won't work for us. Excuses are worth what you pay for them, though, which is...? Yep! You guessed it—NOTHING. If you really want to change, then work on effecting that change. It doesn't just happen by itself.

All that being said: not everyone needs to be the "lead dog." If you're happy where you are, rock on! Enjoy it!

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! 💛🐝 I'd love to hear your thoughts on this or any other fortune, so drop me a line! If you have a fortune cookie you wish to share, please send a clear photo of it through the Facebook page. Oh, and by the way, I was looking for inspiring books about making changes and this one looks interesting! I haven't read it yet, but I'm going to! You can get your own fortune cookies, too.


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Friday, June 8, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: Have a Vision—Be Demanding

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Time for another fortune already? Alrighty, then! Let's get down to it. I love this one! 

Have a vision. Be demanding.

This is a GREAT follow-up to last week's fortune isn't it? In that one, we discussed having a plan for success and putting that plan into motion.

Part of the success formula is having a vision in the first place. But how do you create that vision? What if you're feeling stuck or uncreative?

Inspiration sometimes hits us when we least expect it. Or we get a glimmer of an idea and then need a little push to get the ball rolling. I often use a notebook and start doodling. Sort of my own version of a storyboard. Or I use a vision board to inspire myself—a board where I put images, notes to myself, etc., to start to put a plan into action.

But that second part is ALSO important, and this is the part that I adore: "Be demanding."

What does this mean to you? 
Who do you think you should be demanding of? 
Yourself? Or others?

For me, it's about being demanding of ourselves. Of pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones. Of knowing, without a doubt, that we can succeed at whatever we put our minds to, but sometimes we are going to have to push ourselves beyond what we think our limits are in order to get there.

Easier said than done? Nah. That's just a story we tell ourselves when the work gets hard.

Challenge yourself today: what do you want to accomplish? What is YOUR vision, and how will you get there?

YOU CAN DO IT. 🐝

Oh, and one more thing, regarding the others in the equation:

Sometimes, we're demanding of others where we don't really challenge ourselves. Nobody's going to fix whatever a problem is or create your dream goal for you. You HAVE to do the work yourself. That doesn't mean people can't help you, and that you can't establish some kind of standards, but hold yourself to those standards. It may not always be easy, but imagine how proud of yourself you'll be once you accomplish the goal.

Thanks as always for reading, and if you want to have your fortune "read," send me a picture through the Facebook page. I've got some interesting reader submissions coming up soon! :)

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Friday, May 11, 2018

Fortune Cookie Friday: The Roving Bee

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Hello, and happy Friday! I hope you've all had a great week. It is Fortune Cookie Friday, so let's see what today holds:


It's the roving bee 🐝 that gathers honey. 🍯

First of all, I'd like to start with a side note: I love how my house is a virtual scavenger hunt when it comes to fortunes. It's fun for me when I find them. I have these things tucked away in all kinds of tiny little places, and it never ceases to amaze me when I come upon one that seems to speak exactly to what I'm thinking at the time. This one was tucked away in a drawer, with a rusty old paperclip on it. I have no idea what it used to be clipped to, by the way, but I took the clip off to take the photo, and it left those imprints on the paper. I don't even know how long I've had this one, but it has probably traveled with me through several moves over several years. :)

Anyway, here's my take on today's message:

In order to reap the benefits available to us, sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone. Nothing changes by doing the same thing. So if you're looking to get some more honey (abundance) into your life, switch up the routine and do something different.

This can apply to career/work decisions, feeling stuck on personal goals, or wanting to learn a new skill. I'll give you an example:

The only reason I never went into business for myself in the past is because I wasn't willing to learn the secondary skills necessary for that. What does this mean? It means that I can be the best proofreader or writer or what-have-you out there, but if I'm not willing to actually learn how to market myself, learn social media, learn how to make a website, learn accounting, etc., then the likelihood of success I would have as a proofreader or writer or what-have-you is minimal.

And I won't lie: the reason why I wasn't willing to learn them is because I was a little bit afraid of business parts of the thing. For instance: I'm an introvert, but I have to go out there and network. And I'm not fond of math and expenses and keeping track of all that stuff. For that reason, something I felt drawn to doing years ago never happened until this year because FINALLY, I was willing to get out of my comfort zone and just do the thing, whatever it took. The funny thing is, I'm finding out that I'm actually pretty good at all of that secondary business-y stuff, so now that I'm actually doing it, it's just not that big a deal!

What if you're holding yourself back from doing something you've always wanted to do, because you're afraid to push your limits or get out of your comfort zone and learn something new to do it? Where's the fun in that? You may surprise yourself if you try!

Drop me a line and let me know: what is something you want to do, and what is holding you back from doing it? What comfort zone do YOU need to get out of?

GO GET THAT HONEY, my fellow bee-peeps! 💛🐝



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Reflections on 2020

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